When it comes to rapport, no one ever goes in depth with it. How many of you guys actually know what rapport is? If I could take a guess, I would say that you equivalate rapport to feeling like you know someone. The problem with that? You have a lot of friends, and know a lot of people, but it doesn't mean that you would trust these people with your closest secrets. And that's what you need to shoot for; not just making a girl feel like she knows you, but making her feel like she can share her closest secrets with you. If you can do that, then she will most likely have sex with you if you attempt to go for it. If you look at the various field reports on blogs and forums, you will see a lot of women that know guys and hang around them from time to time, but you never get the feeling that any of these girls trust these guys with their closest secrets. Although they know the guys, you can see that the women keep these guys at arms length when it comes to their feelings and closest secrets.

• Insta Girls

The final week of Detox begins. And my one week holiday to Thailand begins on Saturday. It was a tough weekend. I felt needy, horny and unloved. So much so I started cracking on my friends and one in particular…David. Thanks to the other David’s (from Cairns) advice. I told my friend David I had a crush on him. It was partly a joke but also partly true. It is hard to cross the friendship line. Last Wednesday I wrote about friends being soul mates, but what happens when friends become crushes or lovers?

• Benelux Kinky Lovers

Animals learn to behave through conditioning. Humans use conditioning as a survival mechanism. We learn when we are young that if we put our fingers on the stove, we will get burned. So we take precautions as to not get burned. When we fall in love, we learn that someone may break our heart. So we condition our selves to not attach to men and not to trust them. My therapist reckons that I lost trust with men because I lost trust with my father. My father would always say one thing (he would be home early, he would take me to school or he would spend holidays with me). But he never followed through. Now…men will say things like (I love you, I like you, I want to see you again, I want to be your boyfriend). Yet, I never him from them again. So can I trust again? My inspirational friend Mark believes that you can trust again... in men, in friends and in people. He thinks we are too afriad to get close to people...to be taken advantage of or to be ripped off. No one trusts anymore. Mark says that just because I have had negative experiences does not mean all men are untrustworthy.

• Domiantrix Dating

I was randomly reading around on the blogosphere when I noticed that there is a huge gap when it comes to game. And then I tried to recall what other gurus have said in their various products. That's when I realized that there is almost nothing on the main thing that determines whether or not a woman that isn't a slut will sleep with you: trust. The closest gurus have come were very brief snippets on vulnerability, and creating rapport. As far as vulnerability goes, it can be difficult to steer a conversation towards it without seeming obvious. And on top of that, if you talk about vulnerabilities for too long, you can come off as too touchy feely and soft, which would absolutely make you seem like the gay best friend. In other words, you can't keep talking about vulnerabilities with a girl.

• Loveawake Snapchat Contacts

Our conversation got me thinking about trust…why do I have such issues with trust? Have James and I been so burned with trusting guys in the past that we fear trusting men in the future? Can we learn to trust again? James has an amazing boyfriend who clearly loves him deeply. He should have no hesitation in trusting what his boyfriend says about him and their relationship. Yet James had had some negative experiences that have scared him from trusting...even nice guys like his boyfriend....

• Sugar Dating